Nuturing Words

talking to kids, nurturing words

“Children have more need of models than of critics.” ~Carolyn Coats


  • Thank you for cleaning your room. What a thorough job!
  • Your help has been a great gift for me today!
  • What would I have done without you today? Thank you so much!

Validation of Success:

  • You put a lot of work into that. Great Job!
  • You figured it out! I am impressed!
  • I enjoyed your performance. No one else could have done it better!

Encouragement to push ahead:

  • You are getting the hang of it. Your practice is paying off!
  • I know you can do it. I have confidence in you!
  • One step at a time- you’re doing it!

Encouragement in times of Failure:

  • I know that was a new thing for you. It was an excellent try!
  • I know you tried your best and that is more important than winning.
  • That was a great effort. Don’t worry about a small mistake.

Notice Improvement:

  • Look how much progress you have made! You should be proud!
  • I remember when you were first learning that. You have come a long way!
  • Your practice has really paid off! You are amazing!

Relating to others:

  • I saw how you shared your toy. That was generous of you.
  • That was great teamwork!
  • I notice how sensitive you are to people’s feelings. 


  • You seem to enjoy_______. Tell me more about it.
  • You are really good at that!
  • You are so talented! I love it!

Ways to say I love you:

  • I am so proud to tell people you are my son/daughter.
  • I really enjoy spending time with you. You make me happy!
  • I am so glad you are home!
  • HUGS!

What if you were taught all these things as a child? These are affirmations every child NEEDS to hear!



Tough situations make you stronger
Happiness comes from inside you
You are talented
Use positive visualization to achieve your dreams
Always remember life is magical
You are beautiful inside and out
Gratitude is key to happiness
Mistakes are just opportunities to learn
You are amazing
Forgive easily and keep your heart open
I believe in you!
You light up the world with your smile
You have unique gifts to share with the world
You already have everything you will ever need inside you
I totally accept and adore who you are
I love you no matter what!

from SambalaKids

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